Being able to recognize subjectivity

 Subjectivity is the concept that when it comes to certain things that there is no right or wrong, there is only opinion. Subjectivity and morality rarely mix. Just as there is no right and wrong when it comes to favourite colour or favourite food, such applies to many aspects of life that society tends to forget are completely subjective. 

I talk a lot about projection. I believe that all human's disagreements/differences root to projection. The lack of ability to see subjectivity vs objectivity comes from the need to project. If you really think about it, there is no right and wrong when it comes to music taste, movie taste, clothing taste, etc. We tend to get lost in our need to project and forget that many of the things we demonize people for are still completely subjective. 

Body type is subjective, style is subjective, politics are subjective, religion is subjective. The list goes on and on. When it comes to subjectivity, because there is no right or wrong there is no majority rules. Sure, majority rules will win an election, but that still doesn't mean the majority is right and the minority is wrong. Just because majority of society strive for a certain body type, follow a certain style, listen to a certain type of music, etc doesn't mean that these preferences are more correct than others. Doesn't mean that people in minorities of these preferences are in the wrong. Majority rules doesn't even mean that objective facts are correct.

It's important in life to check ourselves when it comes to believing our preferences are superior or that they are a right vs wrong. You don't need to slam someone for liking a type of music that is widely disapproved of, nor do you need to take personal offense to someone disliking your favourite music. This is the key to being able to peacefully and happily co-exist with our fellow humans. This is the key to ending bigotry. We don't have to agree on everything, we just have to respect everyone's right to their own opinions without getting upset about differing opinions.

Knocking others down shows weakness. Building others up shows strength.

Being judgemental comes from a lack of happiness and love with one's self. That hole inside you cannot be filled by taking a chunk of someone else. You cannot build yourself up by knocking others down, nor can you build yourself up by mentally placing yourself as superior to others. No matter how you try to excuse your projection as being smarter or morally superior or whatnot, subconsciously you know you are projecting. Subconsciously you know that you're not fighting to help society, but to help your own self esteem at someone else's expense.

If people are factually wrong or being immoral, you cannot change their mind by attacking them. As I've been told for many years by my mentor, you cannot shove anything down anyone's throat without getting them to open their mouth first. You can only educate people by getting on the same level and doing it politely and respectfully. The root of all bigotry and (human caused) problems in the world is from people who need to feel like they're better than others to maintain their self esteem. So many people these days are looking so hard to be offended (or find misinformation) so they can take a stance of moral or intellectual superiority, that they twist and pick apart your words to accuse you of saying things you didn't. They think they are fighting toxicity but they are toxic projecting as well.

When you stop comparing yourself to others (as either above or beneath you) then you can become aware of your own toxicity, as well as talents and good qualities, and be able to work on yourself and give yourself the credit you deserve. When I learned how to do this, it was the first time ever in my life that I felt a sense of happiness and fulfillment.