Everyone's jealous?

One of the parts of society in this day and age that makes me absolutely sick is that everyone loves to use the words "jealous" and "hater".

99% of the time someone doesn't like someone when it's not because they're socially awkward, it's because that person is a crappy person and has an unattractive personality. Yet 99% of the time someone doesn't like someone, the person who is disliked and their friends say they're jealous.

That is narcissism. Remember, narcissists are not ACTUALLY super vain. Narcissism is a self defence mechanism for extreme insecurity and often times long term childhood trauma. Their sense of self esteem is basically a house of cards, which is why they point the finger at those who find fault in them because they can keep their house of cards up if people who don't like them or find fault in them are the one's with the problem. They will always deflect and point the finger, unless it's to gain pity and take the sympathy attention away from others.

Nobody is perfect. No matter who you are, no matter how old you are, no matter how far you've come, EVERYBODY has room to improve and EVERYBODY should always be trying to self improve. People love to deflect and project by acting like everyone who doesn't like them is jealous.

When really there's nothing to be jealous about because the reasons you think they are jealous are just areas of your life that you overcompensate for so that you feel like a valuable enough person and can stuff all your problems and flaws back to where you're not even consciously aware of them anymore. Things like being physically attractive, being fit, making good money, etc.

It is extremely unhealthy not just for society but for yourself. 

People are not jealous of you. Often times you just have an unattractive personality, you're pig headed, and you are a crappy human being. Most of the time people are widely disliked is because they are just not a decent human being.

Stop pointing the finger and be better. There's a huge difference between just not fitting in because you're socially awkward or because you have a strong personality and strong opinions, and large numbers of people not liking you because you're so cocky, arrogant, and full of yourself. The assumption that everyone is jealous of you is just part of you being a crappy person and is one of the reasons people don't like you.

You can be confident but still be humble. You can be confident and have self love without thinking and acting like you are better than other people. You can still have compassion and not look down on others.

Remember, the act of looking down on ANYONE for ANY reason is projecting. It's not about them, it's about you. Only hurt people hurt people. The only thing that leads to people doing bad things is mental illness and mental trauma. Doesn't matter if someone suffers addiction, doesn't matter if someone steals, doesn't matter if someone is even a murderer, we should still have compassion and not look down on people because everyone has a deep reason for why they do bad things. People don't just decide to be bad and do bad things. It is a life of trauma and/or mental illness so therefore it is out of their control and they need help. If you look down on anyone, it's projecting and it means you are only doing so to feel better about yourself in some way. You are not taking any kind of moral highroad by attacking and slamming others who have done or said immoral things.